Learning how to swallow… Two little words… Two VERY difficult to swallow words.
These words roll off my tongue in so many situations! When someone holds open a door, or passes me the salt shaker at the table. When someone does something for me I make sure to let them know that I appreciate them. I always want to make sure that others know that I see their kindness and I want to acknowledge it.
I have gotten much better at saying ‘Thank You’ when people compliment me about my weight loss success, and my healthy living choices. I have learned to accept those compliments because I am proud of what I have done. I understand that what I am doing is not easy. It is something to be proud of. It is something so many people try to do, but do not know how to do, and while I do not have all the answers I have found something that works for me and it is okay to say thank you when someone acknowledges your hard work.
I am sure you are asking what do you mean you can’t say those two little words then? You said them just a few posts down! I still struggle so much to say Thank You when someone compliments me about other things. This all goes back to self-esteem I suppose. On the rare occasion that I was told in the past that I was beautiful, or looked nice I thought it was a joke. A lot of times it was. Kids are cruel, teenagers are cruel, and as I learned the hard way, adults can be just as cruel. So now that I am feeling better about myself, slowly I am learning to accept compliments as they come.
I learned somewhere along the way that to reject someones compliment is to insult the person giving it to you. That is never my intention, however it becomes difficult at times to discern if someone is just being nice, or if their thoughts actually match their words. So slowly I am learning to say Thank you. It is something I really want to learn to do. I want to learn to accept a compliment, feel good about it, not guilty. (Yes I feel guilty when I get a compliment, like I don’t deserve it.) I am right now at a point where I will say, “Thank you, I don’t agree but thank you.” Every time I say that I want to kick myself in the ass so hard because I want so badly t o believe the truth in the words. Someday I will I am sure. It is just a process. A long evolving process of learning.
So for those of you out there who know how to accept compliments gracefully, how do you do it? Have you always been able to feel good about getting them? Do you just smile and ignore the voice in your head? Any tips for me?