The second person to speak at #OBOS was Philly D, who I had never met before, mostly because my schedule has never allowed me Friday nights to go hang out with all the cool kids at hot yoga. Happily that is changing and I will soon head off to my first Hot Yoga class in the near future! Anyway, Phil had me in tears for most of his discussion. He shared some very personal stories about his sister and some volunteer work that he does at a Children’s hospital with cancer patients. A boy who communicates only by RAWR-ing because he thinks he is actually a dinosaur… because they are strong… I can relate. #rawr.
Do you know what the difference between being and doing is? So many of us say I want to be BE healthy. The dictionary defines being as something that exists. That is something that I did for SO MANY YEARS in my life… I existed. If you look back on this blog you see me talk about feeling like I was watching life pass me by because it was. However doing is defined as action, performance, and execution. I don’t know about you all but I sure want to be doing not being.
Remember the human doing project at Mall of America last year… they had him DOING… so think about that… to be healthy you have to DO. There is a local health insurance company here that has a DO campaign and they truly have hit the nail on the head. To be healthy you have to DO.
I am sure you are sitting there going so what Kris… we all know we have to workout, so Phil said go do Yoga right? He owns a studio this is what he wants you to do right? No. It is hard to explain exactly what he was talking about in general or specific terms if you have never had that moment that wakes you up from that dark place, so forgive the bulleted nature of this. I am going to try to not weep as I think about how much impact his words had on my heart.
Phil’s wish for each of us is that we can learn to be more awake in our lives, that we can me more aware of what is in front and around us. In order to Rise Up and meet life, you must first wake up to your surroundings. You must tune into yourself, make deliberate choices about your breathing, and movements, feel your body, feel your breath.
As you move through this life and become more aware of things you will know when something feels wrong, and when something feels wrong you will learn that you need to step up and stand up for others. As you rise up you will see things that are unfair and unjust and you cannot ignore them. They will not change unless someone speaks up.
As you rise up you must reach out and down to others, this is part of why Jen (@PriorFatGirl) shares her story, and a very big part of why I am so open and honest on my blog about my struggles. When you reach out to others you let them know that there is hope, help and strength.
Be what you love in life, and use what you love to make a difference because it isn’t actually the length of your life that makes the biggest impact it is the width. The more people you reach, and they in turn reach creates waves and ripples that will effect more people than you ever intended.
He also spoke about how important it is to be aware of your word choices, which was also something Mary spoke about. The words you choose to define yourself, your life your goals and the things in your mind can really set yourself up for success or for failure. Do you remember my Can’ts Won’ts and Don’ts post? Go back and read it… I felt like they both took a page right from my blog and were telling me to go back and read my words… Kris make sure you are picking your words correctly.
After hearing both Mary and Phil speak about how can’t and and won’t and don’t are so often confused I really felt like I had a grasp on something strong. I know when I first had that moment of clarity about those three words back in August it really was something amazing. It really becomes a more about DOING what you have to do and less about what you want. I can’t cook healthy meals for my family is actually I don’t because my family won’t eat them. Well guess what you CAN because you make those decisions. I can’t workout because I don’t have time is really I don’t workout because I would rather watch tv, and I won’t give up that addiction to finding out what happens on that next episode of Lost (okay, I am out of touch but so what!) You get it right?
Who has control of your life? Do you have control? Who did you give the control to? Are you ready to take it back? Only you can!